Notes on the general state of the neighborhood, the family, and the masses in the time of the virus

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- 1,040 confirmed cases (up 106 from yesterday)
- 75 confirmed deaths (up 1 from yesterday)
The care center in Kirkland where this whole thing kicked off for us has leveled off in terms of body count. For the first couple of weeks, nearly all of the new fatalities came from that one place, but it’s been a few days since the last one. Hopefully the worst is over for them. It must be frightening to be there, elderly and not wanting this to be the way your number is delivered. I can’t imagine. I suppose some are ready, and some are not, just like always.
Quarantine weekend was (dare I be so droll?) nice. I hesitate to over-sentimentalize things, but it would be shallow of me to ignore the fact that we have good neighbors. I don’t want to say “community” because I think that word is somewhat weaponized – a virtue grenade lobbed from dubious moral high ground. “I love this community,” “the strength of our community is…” etc. It’s nice, but I think a little vapid, and generally meant to cast a wider net than the waters being fished really call for. Neighbors, on the other hand, yes. And we have good ones. To ride the cliché of looking for the good in all this strangeness, our neighbor-cluster has been a very bright spot. We gather nightly (the weather’s turning, though, so watch out) in camp chairs, with drinks ranging from scotch to coffee to last night’s appearance of a Bloody Mary. The talk is good and fun, with nobody harping on political/governmental issues, no opinion-slinging about whether we’re over- or under-reacting to this whole thing (as a community, haha). Just the usual jokes about social distancing and the obligatory prediction of the coming lockdown. It seems to be a foregone conclusion in the minds of most that Seattle ‘s shelter-in-place order is just a Governor’s presser away (that’s a very short article that uses the term “shelter-in-place” six (6!) times) I don’t know. I don’t care. Speculation wears me down faster than a belt sander, so I just refuse to do it (with the exception of maintaining my very general prediction that this’ll be over sooner than we think. But that’s saying very little, and committing to less). Outside of our 5:00 happy hour at the end of the dead-end road, we (the neighbors) see plenty of each other out in the yards now that we’re all home. No soccer games or swim meets, no piano recitals, no fund raisers. Just everybody, here. The gardens are being refreshed, the daffodils are being complimented, the decks are being washed, and indeed (don’t get off the cliché wagon yet, Andy) the sounds of the kids playing their ridiculous and fluid-ruled games are ever present.
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Last week I met a friend for a walk. This is Alki beach. It’s been in the news lately, an example of the people’s refusal to take the plague seriously. This beach (and all of Seattle’s more popular park and public spaces) has been very, very crowded since the social distancing mandates, school closures, and working from home began. But guys, the weather has been amazing:

The beach smelled like weed and Thursday. In other words, unremarkable. It was more crowded than the picture shows, and the crowding has increased daily since then. My opinions are meaningless, but it is the opinion of the general public (the part that is generally not going to the beach, anyway) that this is very irresponsible and dangerous. So that is what all of the talk is about now – the crowded parks and what our community of armchair epidemiologists have learned from the internet about how a virus spreads in the open air. I begrudge them nothing, neither the beachgoers (I was there myself!) nor the ersatz experts. Everything that everyone is doing and saying today is not a concern for the present, but a bet on the future, seeding the narrative in the hopes that when the end of this thing arrives, their opinions will be awash in the glow of righteous hindsight, that soothing balm that only comes by chance, and yet whose truth is always claimed by the accidental victors. An opinion made today is nothing but a desire to say “see, I was right” tomorrow. And it’s a safe bet, because when we lose we are not expected to say “see, I was wrong.”
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The short version is simply that, after a weekend hiatus here at the PVPD, not much has changed. We’re all still healthy and haven’t tried to kill each other yet. I threw my back out moving a giant stone birdbath thing – broke one shovel that I had comically praised for its longevity not 30 minutes prior, and eventually used a floor jack to make the bigger moves. I have enough time on my hands to try a handful of different strange pain remedies, none of which are nearly as effective as ibuprofen and a little careful stretching (he said, in the absence of any prescription narcotics). CBD oil I think is the biggest sham going these days, but that doesn’t stop me from using it. This morning I picked up the boy’s new homework packet for the week, and dropped off the old one, feeling very much like we accomplished a great deal and had a successful week of homeschooling.

Your “Homeless in Coronafornia” update for today:
We are fine, just waiting on our checks…
There was a resonating collective sigh of relief when the government pulled that out.
It’s like getting paid for a snowday
I’m not sure “the government” has quite put that one together yet. I may be wrong, but he shouldn’t get ahead of himself. Maybe.
— Stay off the beach, comrade citizen!—
Sun, salt water, increasing heat…. the beach seems to be an anti-virus site.
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Under no circumstances stream or view the 60s film On the Beach.
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[…] I hesitate to over-sentimentalize things, but it would be shallow of me to ignore the fact that we have good neighbors. I don’t want to say “community” because I think that word is somewhat weaponized – a virtue grenade lobbed from dubious moral high ground. “I love this community,” “the strength of our community is…” etc. It’s nice, but I think a little vapid, and generally meant to cast a wider net than the waters being fished really call for. Neighbors, on the other hand, yes. And we have good ones. To ride the cliché of looking for the good in all this strangeness, our neighbor-cluster has been a very bright spot. We gather nightly (the weather’s turning, though, so watch out) in camp chairs, with drinks ranging from scotch to coffee to last night’s appearance of a Bloody Mary. The talk is good and fun, with nobody harping on political/governmental issues, no opinion-slinging about whether we’re over- or under-reacting to this whole thing (as a community, haha).” RTWT AT The Perfect Vision Plague Diaries #6 – Andy Havens […]
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You are lucky to have good neighbors. I live in the northwest suburbs of Chicago. Seven years ago on Father’s Day my husband should have died from the widow maker heart attack. The ambulance came to our house in the middle of the day on a Saturday when most of our neighbors were home and saw it. Not one neighbor came by then or later to see how we were. When I mentioned it to a couple of neighbors later, they commented that they had seen the ambulance. Heartless bastards and bitches. I could have been a widow with two young girls. When we first moved into our home 18 years ago, we tried to get to know all of our neighbors. When someone new moved in, we would pop over to welcome them with baked goods. Only two families have wanted to have more than two words of conversation, and they keep those short. One family actually ran and hid in their garage when my girls and I took them some homemade brownies one Christmas. A few years later the guy had the audacity to come ask my husband what to do, because his wife had just served him with divorce papers. People come home and race into their garage. The door closes. We wave and no one waves back. I honestly believe that if I was laying collapsed on my sidewalk, that people would walk around me. Is it us? No. We don’t have 3 eyes in our foreheads. We don’t have rusting bed springs on the front lawn. We don’t sit on the front porch cleaning our rifles. We are just your typical white vanilla suburbanites. Our neighbors are a mixture of ages, races, religions, and cultures. It’s just how life is in the northwest burbs of Chicago. We can’t wait to move to a friendlier place when we retire. I have zero illusions about how my neighbors will be when TSHTF. When we go for walks around the neighborhood now, everyone is hiding in their houses that are literally closed up. Only a few dog walkers out and they are quickly dragging Fido down the sidewalk in fear of their lives.
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YUP. NEIGHBORS ARE essential.
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I’m sorry to hear that, Annie. Two houses ago, my wife pulled out of the driveway and waved hello to a neighbor who was out in her yard. The neighbor flipped her off. Other neighbors were similarly…challenging. Within a year we had moved away from that place.
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[…] talking to neighbors and posting on Facebook. The armchair epidemiologists that I mentioned back in entry #6 will have to find some other way to scold people. The entire world’s opportunity to elicit […]
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